When life turns sour, what is your first response? Do you seek the advice of a friend? Mumble & grumble? Or, do you confide in the Lord?
Oh, to have been there on that day when Jesus spoke the words recorded in John 15:13-15 and to hear him call me his friend & confidante!
Are you willing to let Jesus into the innermost circle of your life, that intimate space where secrets hide and your deepest fears reside?
To be a confidante is to be trustworthy. Can you be trusted with someone’s heart-talk, or do you gossip it as a “prayer request” to others?
Do you only let Jesus in on your needs and wants, or do you talk to the Lord openly about everything that’s on your heart?
One of the most difficult things about moving (for me, at least) is keeping up with friends left behind and building new relationships. Thanks to technology like Skype and Facebook, staying in touch is a lot easier than the old days of handwriting letters (although, I still love sending and receiving snail mail!) and sending rolls of film away for processing.
As great as technology is, there’s something truly special about spending time with someone one-on-one that breaks down superficial walls, builds trust, and creates an atmosphere of confidence where you are assured that the thoughts you share will be kept secure. That’s a much different level of relationship than most of our bantering on Facebook; wouldn’t you agree?
I came across a familiar passage in John 15 this week, and a verse caught my eye in a different translation. The Contemporary English Version (CEV) records verses 13-15 as: “The greatest way to show love for friends is to die for them. And you are my friends, if you obey me. Servants don’t know what their master is doing, and so I don’t speak to you as my servants. I speak to you as my friends, and I have told you everything that my Father has told me.”
I love the way the Living Bible (TLB) uses the verb “confide in” instead of “speak to.” It implies a more intimate friendship, the unfiltered kind where you can share your most important, deeply personal thoughts. Jesus is telling his disciples that they are not just his students or trainees, but they are his confidantes.
We all need that level of openness and accountability with someone – to know that we can let down our guard and still be loved unconditionally, yet be challenged to grow in our faith-walk. Jesus invited his disciples into that innermost circle. May we, too, desire that level of closeness with our savior.