A dear friend of mine is struggling right now with what seems like trial after trial in her life. She thinks that she’s receiving her just deserts for some less-than-optimal choices that she’s made, and she feels ashamed. Does that sound familiar? (It’s a rhetorical question; no need to raise your hand. Surely, we’ve all felt that way at some point in our lives.)

Trying to be a godly friend, I suggested that she pray about it. I reminded her of what she already knew: that God is big enough to handle our frustrations, even when they are directed at him. (It’s not like he’s oblivious to our feelings—he knows our hearts!) What I failed to do during our conversation was actually offer practical ways that she can begin praying. D’oh! So, I decided to jot down some ideas for her, and I thought I’d share them with you here, as well.

When we don’t know what to pray or how to begin, scripture is a great springboard. The Bible is full of praise and promises that we can read back to God verbatim, if need be. When we lack the words, the Word can help us get started. I did a search for verses with the key word “shame” to guide us, and the following prayer is simply a paraphrase of those findings. (Of course, you can put it into your own words if you want to.)

Lord, your word says that anyone who believes in you will not be put to shame (Romans 10:11). Even though I know you as my savior, I feel ashamed right now. I feel disgraced—even under attack—by those who would like to see me fail (Psalm 44:15-16). Guard my life and uphold my integrity (Psalm 25:20-21). I know that you are my helper and comforter; remind me of your goodness when I feel distraught (Psalm 86:17).

When I feel like I can’t cope, redirect my mind from earthly things and help me not to fall back on other gods—even seemingly comforting things like too much food or sleep—because you alone are my savior (Philippians 3:19-20). In you, Jesus, there is no condemnation; thank you that I am included in that promise (Romans 8:1-2). You have poured your love into my heart, and it gives me hope (Romans 5:5). Your word says that if I hope in you, I will not be put to shame; thank you for your promises (Psalm 25:3). You are my rock and shelter, my defender and deliverer; come quickly to my rescue and guide me (Psalm 31:1-3). In Jesus’ name, amen.

No matter what you are going through in your own life, I encourage you to use scripture as a starting point for your prayer time. I’d love to hear how God works in your life through it! (And, while you are praying, please lift up my friend. Thanks!)